For
Family and Friends
When someone you love is suffering from an eating disorder
you may not know what to say to them. You might find it
difficult to understand what they are going through. Let
them know that you are there for them, and that you care.
Discuss your concerns, without judging or criticizing, at a
time and location free of distractions. Be patient. They
may refuse to admit that there is a problem at first
because they are ashamed or embarrassed. Show that you care
by being supportive and patient and by listening and trying
to understand her situation.
• learn all you can about eating disorders, their impact
and idiosyncrasies
• understand that eating disorders are not just about food
• become more aware of the comments you and others may make
regarding appearance and weight loss which may be
interpreted as criticism
• recognize and put aside your own misconceptions about
eating disorders
• avoid making flattering comments about thin people and
disapproving remarks about obese people
• understand that they are turning to an eating disorder
for emotional comfort, though they may not recognize it
• know that you are not responsible for the eating disorder
• be careful not to label foods 'good' or 'bad' and don't
try to make her eat or insist that she gain weight
Eating disorders require attention from professionals,
don't try to cure the eating disorder on your own. The most
important thing you can do is to educate yourself about
eating disorders so that you will have a better
understanding of her situation and be there to support and
comfort her.
